The Truth About Pet Loss

Losing a pet can be every bit as heartbreaking as losing a person. They are part of the family, woven into daily routines and quiet moments at home.

When a friend or loved one is grieving a pet, it can be hard to know what to say or do. You cannot take away their pain, but you can walk beside them and remind them they are not alone.

Here are some gentle ways to support someone after the loss of a much loved pet.

Acknowledge their loss

One of the kindest things you can do is to simply acknowledge how significant this loss is. Instead of saying “It was only a dog” or “You can always get another cat,” try something like:
“I am so sorry. I know how much you loved them.”
“They were such a special part of your life.”
“I am thinking of you and here if you want to talk.”

Using the pet’s name and recognising the depth of their grief can be deeply comforting.

Give them space to talk and remember

Grief often needs to be spoken out loud. Offer space for them to share stories, photos and memories. You might ask:

“What is one of your favourite memories with them?”
“What did you love most about their personality?”
Listening without trying to fix anything can be a huge support. Tears, laughter and silence are all part of the process.

Offer practical, gentle help

Grief can make everyday tasks feel heavy. Small practical gestures can mean a lot, such as:

Dropping off a meal or some baked treats.
Offering to help pack away pet items when they are ready.
Checking in with a simple text: “Thinking of you today. No need to reply.”
Let them move at their own pace. Some people want to keep water bowls and beds in place for a while. Others need to tidy things away quickly. There is no right or wrong.

Create a comforting ritual

Rituals can help honour the bond they shared with their pet. You could gently suggest:

Lighting a candle and sharing a memory together.
Printing a favourite photo to frame.
Planting a tree or flowers in their garden as a living tribute.
Creating a small memory shelf with a collar, photo and keepsake.
These simple acts can help their grief have somewhere to go.

Choosing a thoughtful pet loss gift

When words feel too small, a tender, thoughtfully curated gift can help show your love and support. That is why I created Grief Gifts pet loss gift boxes.

Our pet loss sympathy gift boxes are designed to bring comfort to someone grieving their furry family member. Each box includes soothing, sensory items and meaningful keepsakes that can be revisited again and again. Think soft textures to hold, gentle self care items for the harder evenings, and small tokens that honour the special bond they shared with their pet.

You can add your own message, and I will handwrite it in a card and wrap everything beautifully, then send it directly to your loved one. It is a simple way to say “I am thinking of you” when you cannot be there in person, or when you are worried you might say the wrong thing.

Grief after pet loss is real, deep and valid. With kind words, a listening ear and a thoughtful gesture, you can help your friend feel held, seen and supported in one of the hardest goodbyes.